Navigating Traditional Gender Roles: How Can I Make My Partner Understand Emotional Labor

What are traditional gender roles and how are they learned? When most people think of traditional gender roles, they might picture a “Leave It To Beaver” family with a stay-at-home wife who keeps a perfectly clean house and has dinner on the table when her husband gets home from work. Gender roles, are more complex …

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Relationship Advice from a Military Spouse

As a military spouse, I’m offering the best advice I’ve ever received regarding my relationship. Let me start with the elephant in the room: whoever told you that relationships should be easy lied. Relationships are hard. They take work, lots of work. Whether you live together or you’re living miles apart. It doesn’t matter if your other …

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I remember every moment that made me fall in love with the man who one day would destroy my ease to love freely.

I met the man of my dreams when I was 20 years old, working at a casino as a barista. He was the epitome of tall, dark(tan) and handsome. It was love at first sight. He worked there too, at the steak house, as a server. I was a young girl, barely old enough to …

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After 25 years of a horrible marriage, I love myself now.

First I was married for 25 yrs. Most of it was unhappy. The relationship started great…then it was up and down forever. We started out living together 6 months into the relationship we were pregnant. I loved him but wasn’t sure if he was the “one”.  I wanted the baby, though. So many things pointed …

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