My wife and I met in 1984, we married in 1986, and we separated in 2003. I was 41 and she was 32 when we got married.
I honestly don’t know when our divorce was finalized, as it wasn’t a big deal. We had worked everything out by July 2003, so the divorce was a mere formality.
We did try marriage counseling, but it seemed that everything that went wrong was my fault. The counseling did not accomplish anything.
We had a number of different issues, including how we raised our children.
It also bothered me that she gained a great deal of weight and would not take steps to become healthier.
Eventually, there was no intimacy left in our relationship. It was at that point that I decided we needed to separate, although she hardly was averse to the idea. Our divorce was postponed primarily to allow time for financial benefits for her.
At this point, my wife and I have essentially no contact, and I would say that I have no feelings either positive or negative toward her. We are able to talk and to cooperate regarding the children but rarely is it necessary to do so.