My Transition to an Open Relationship

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My idea of a relationship was what most people thought it was and “supposed” to be. One man and one woman, committed to one another without any infidelity or thoughts there of. I’ve had several girlfriends as a child, but as a teen and young adult, to adulthood there weren’t many. Ever since I was young …

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6 Things to do before leaving a marriage

New beginnings

When it comes to divorce, things are never easy. That having been said, there are things that you can do, or can avoid doing, to make the transition as, safe, easy and smooth as possible. When you are directly in the middle of a high stress and very emotional situation, it is very easy to …

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I remember every moment that made me fall in love with the man who one day would destroy my ease to love freely.

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I met the man of my dreams when I was 20 years old, working at a casino as a barista. He was the epitome of tall, dark(tan) and handsome. It was love at first sight. He worked there too, at the steak house, as a server. I was a young girl, barely old enough to …

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Three girls, Three states, four broken hearts.

I had a troubled life from the very beginning. I didn’t care about anyone but myself. I was the epitome of ignorance is bliss. I left my hometown of Los Angeles California to be with a girl in a different state. I met her online and immediately wanted to know her for who she really …

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He had another girlfriend while we were together for five years.

When I met him he told me he was often busy. So he essentially put us on a schedule. I was allowed to see him on Mondays Wednesdays and Fridays. I was never allowed around his family. Anytime I saw him on the weekend I was only allowed a short amount of time with him. …

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Married at 18 and Divorced by 21

So I married my high school sweetheart. We met at 14 and dated all through high school. He joined the navy. We got married at 18 when he was at home on a break from boot camp/ school before he was stationed at Coronado Island in San Diego. He deployed while we were married for …

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After 25 years of a horrible marriage, I love myself now.

First I was married for 25 yrs. Most of it was unhappy. The relationship started great…then it was up and down forever. We started out living together 6 months into the relationship we were pregnant. I loved him but wasn’t sure if he was the “one”.  I wanted the baby, though. So many things pointed …

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