I met Tim and we started dating long distance and seeing each other every other weekend flying back and forth between Denver and Salt Lake City.I moved to Denver after we had dated for a year and a half and moved in with him.
We got engaged at that same time.
We had a year engagement and then got married. Looking back if I’m honest with myself things started to fizzle once we were living together, but I was so excited about everything going on and it’s a huge whirlwind leading up to a wedding I kinda ended up putting issues on the back burner and focused on all the fun of the big wedding day.
Next, we decided to move to London and that created a lot more excitement and other things to focus on than our relationship as well. We moved and traveled and were having a blast.
After about a year in London is when reality started to sink in. It was also a time where I had grown so much from living in different places coming from Salt Lake I expanded my horizons a lot.
I felt like I was finally my true self and that was someone that Tim did not want me to be. He wanted me to go back to the way I was before. I suggested couples therapy but he refused. I ended up doing therapy on my own and continued to grow. We were basically heading down 2 very different paths.
We decided to get divorced.
Looking back on everything I do not regret one bit. I had to go through all of that to learn and to grow into the person I am today.
Now I have a very different view on marriage and relationships. I don’t really care so much about getting married but more about meaningful connection and deep love. We were together 5 years total – 2.5 dating and 2.5 married.
– Stella Blake, 33