We were never really head over heels, just practical

We were high school sweethearts and he was my first serious relationship. We were friends initially and he kept asking me out until I finally agreed. We hardly ever fought. He was a great guy, very intelligent.

After about 9 years we got married because it seemed to make sense financially.

We were never really the head over heels type. Our relationship was very practical. I was never super attracted to him on a superficial level. People would comment that oftentimes we just seemed more like roommates and for a lot of that, that seemed true.

He had graduated law school and started working a high-stress job which affected him at home. He became depressed and wasn’t interested in doing much besides sitting around watching TV and eating.

I started going out more, hiking, engaging in hobbies. And it was becoming more and more clear that our paths were diverging.

It did take a while to realize it though, after 12 years of being in a comfortable relationship with someone, it’s hard to know when it should end.

We ended amicably. There were tears, but there was no being vindictive or trying to destroy each other. There were no major assets kids involved so legally speaking, everything was a piece of cake.

It can be much more obvious that you need to leave when the relationship is bad or your partner is abusive, but it can be very hard to know if you should leave when you are in something that is mediocre.

I’m in a relationship now that has everything that was missing from before and am much happier. Sometimes I feel guilty about the divorce, but ultimately, I know it was the right thing for me.

It can be much more obvious that you need to leave when the relationship is bad or your partner is abusive, but it can be very hard to know if you should leave when you are in something that is mediocre.

– Anonymous, 32

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